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Emotions and Feelings

Is Empathy Overrated?

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While it may result in tremendous good, empathy can also be narrow, biased and surprisingly insensitive, argues psychology professor Paul Bloom.

Does empathy make the world a better place? It certainly looks like it. After all, empathy drives people to treat others’ suffering as if it were their own, which then motivates action to make the suffering go away. I see the bullied teenager and might be tempted initially to join in with his tormentors, out of sadism or boredom or a desire to dominate or be popular, but then I empathize — I feel his pain, I feel what it’s like to be bullied — so I don’t add to his suffering. Maybe I even rise to his defense. Empathy is like a spotlight directing attention and aid to where it’s needed.

Positive Thinking: Is it something we all need to learn?

Why pessimists have a reason to be cheerful

Whatever explains Japan’s chart-topping life expectancy, it isn’t being really chipper all the time

For critics of positive thinking like me, as well as for plain old curmudgeons (also like me, to be fair), it’s an awkward truth that an optimistic outlook does seem to lead to a healthier life. Scientists, with their annoying fixation on facts, have published study after study suggesting that an upbeat attitude protects you from cancer, heart disease and stroke. In one big analysis of American women, the most optimistic were 29% less likely to die, during a six-year follow-up, than the least; in another, involving men too, people with positive views of ageing ended up living longer.

Emotional Hygiene

Bosses should be sent on mental health courses to stop employees becoming stressed and depressed, claims major study as expert reveals tips to make you happier at work

  • Employees reported 18% less sick days if their manager went on the course
  • Hectic workloads can often lead to poor mental health - resulting in sick days
  • The world-first University of New South Wales research is dubbed 'promising'

Jealousy, Prejudice and Discrimination

Reading: Jealousy, Prejudice, and Short People

Psychological Boundaries

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Boundaries define where we end and other people begin, both physically and emotionally. Psychologically, they define a space we see as our own, separate from other people. When we are in love or feel very close to another person through friendship, collaboration, or special circumstances, boundaries may get blurred, as we see ourselves not as separate from them. However, even then boundaries continue to be an important piece of our emotional health.

Is envy eating us alive?

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Is Envy Eating Us alive?

Have you ever been in the situation of seeing someone you perceive as an equal succeed beyond their – and your – wildest dreams? Have you ever struggled to understand how they did it, given that they are, according to you, no more talented or skilled than you? If the answer to these questions is yes, you have likely struggled with the painful feeling of envy.

Introverts and extraverts

  1. Are introversion and extraversion inherited qualities?
  2. In what age does the type of personality peep?
  3. Is it possible to be an extravert and introvert simultaneously? Can we get more introverted or extraverted if we want?
  4. What are the qualities that determine an introvert?
  5. What are the qualities that determine an extravert?
  6. What type of personality could you attribute yourself to and why?
  7. Can you determine personality type of any person by his behavior?

Mood, Feelings and Emotion

Questions for discussion:

Pride

Questions for discussion:

  1. What is pride?
  2. Are you proud of your country?
  3. Do you feel more pride in yourself or in others?
  4. Are you proud of your heritage?
  5. Do you think you were always a source of great pride for your parents?

Body Language

Questions for discussion:

  1. Why do you think body language is important?
  2. How do you use body language in your daily life?
  3. How does body language help you to communicate?
  4. How does your native culture use body language?
  5. What kind of body language do you use at school, University and work place?

The red hot business of divorce celebration

The red hot business of divorce celebration

By Barbara Balfour

After finalising a painful divorce Wendy Lewis decided there was only one way to celebrate - by blasting her wedding dress with a machine gun. To get the job done the newly divorced American gathered her female friends - and the dress - and flew to Las Vegas, Nevada for a long weekend.

Generation Gap-Part II

1) Are people from the "older" generation always more wise and correct
in their ways of thinking and choices? Why or why not?
2) Do you ever disagree with your friends/parents/relatives/grandparents about topics such as music, style and values?
3) Is it possible for parents and children to be friends? Or for
people of different generations to be friends?
4) What influences the styles, values and interests of a generation?
How long is a generation?
5) What is an example of a time you and your

Generation Gap-Part I

1) What is a generation gap?
2) Have you ever felt a generation gap with your friends?
3) How do you over come the generation gap?
4) When do you feel the generation gap the most? Is it possible to
overcome a generation gap?
5) At what point in life does the generation gap seem to be the largest?
6) Do you think you can be a better parent than your own parents in future?
7) Do you think it is OK to date or marry someone of a different
generation to yourself, either older or younger?

Feelings that drive us crazy

Questions for discussion:

  1. Do you get annoyed when other people display bad manners? Could you give some examples?
  2. Do you get annoyed when someone cuts in front of you when you are waiting in line?
  3. Do you get angry when politicians make promises they can't keep?
  4. Do you get annoyed when you watch the news on TV and see all the terrible things happening in the world?
  5. Does it annoy you when shop assistants try to sell you things you don't need?

Сhildhood. Are we similar to our parents?

1. How are you similar to your parents? How are you different?

2. Were your parents super protective?At what age could you go
places by yourself? Did your parents always tell you what to do?

3. Did you play outside? What did you like to play? How long did you
play outside a day? Could you play outside all year long?

4. Did you play on the streets? Was it dangerous to play in the streets? What kind of things did you do in the streets? Did you ever have an accident while playing in the streets? What happened?

Mars and Venus Today

  1. Why do we say men are from Mars and women are from Venus?
  2. Why men and women are different when it comes to communicating with each other?
  3. Why relationships became so complicated in the modern world?
  4. How can women make mens life different and vice versa?
  5. Why women are more verbal than men?
  6. Did God make a mistake? Did he "mess up" the master design of sex by making a us so diverse? Does he sit up in heaven and laugh that we can't seem to please each other?

Relationship Advice

PART 1

International Dating & Marriage

1.Would you marry someone of another nationality?
2.Are your parents of the same nationality?
3.What are some advantages of an international marriage?
4.What are some disadvantages?
5.Do you want your husband to know how you looked as a child? Why or why not?
6.Do you believe that having a permanent love between two people who are living in two different countries is possible?

Dating, Part II

Questions for discussion:

1.​ What images spring to mind when you hear the word ‘dating’?

2.​ What are the good things and bad things about dating?

3.​ What can you remember about your first date?

4.​ How do you feel before you go on a first date with someone?

5.​ What is your idea of a great first date?

6.​ What is the most disastrous date you’ve been on?

Awkward situations

Hi, my name is Jose and I'm excited to meet you on Tuesday for our next conversation! Have you ever been in an awkward situation when you fell as if you're between a rock and a hard place? We'll be discussing awkward situations on Tuesday!

Questions for discussion:

  1. When was the last time you were in an awkward situation?
  2. What happened and how did you handle it?
  3. Have you ever been rejected by a crash (a person you REALLY like)?
  4. Have you turned someone down?
  5. Have you been denied a kiss?

Annoying Things

Questions for discussion:

  1. What annoys you about living where you live now?
  2. What annoys you about taking trains to work?
  3. What annoys you about driving a car?
  4. What annoys you most about living at home with your family?
  5. Does it annoy you when people kiss in public?
  6. Do you get annoyed when someone cuts in front of you when you are waiting in line?
  7. Does smoking bother you?
  8. Do you get annoyed when other people display bad manners? Could you give some examples?

Dreams

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Encouragement

Questions for discussion:

  1. What do you do to encourage yourself when going through hard times? Does it work?
  2. Who do you talk to for encouragement and inspiration?
  3. What books offer encouragement and inspiration?
  4. Which of your family members encourage you most? How?
  5. How can discouragement help us to grow?
  6. What do you do when you feel depressed?
  7. What could someone do to encourage you when you feel depressed?
  8. What are some saying in your country that bring encouragement?

To Live and Survive in the Office

1. Do you believe that in the office there are sharks, donkeys, jackals and other animal-prototype employees? What kind of workers do you notice in your office? In which spheres you can find them in abundance?

2. What are the skills/traits of character that annoy you most in your colleagues? What do you like in your colleagues? What kind of colleagues do you ignore? What type are those colleagues?

3. How to survive in a company: common rules and general practices?

Dealing with stress

Questions for discussion:

  1. Let's find the defenitions of stress, a stressful situation, a stress-resistant person.
  2. What causes stress for you?
  3. How can you resist getting emotionally involved into a stressful situation?
  4. In which situations is it easy for you to avoid stress?
  5. What helps you pull together when you get into a stressful situation like when somebody is being shouted at in your presence?
  6. Do you know any techniques how to resist stress, when you are among the people who are stressed?

Happiness

1. How can you describe happiness? What is it related to or what does it depend on?
2. Do you think the same things can make people happy at different ages?
3. Is it true that only simple things make one happy? Can happiness be unconditioned? What makes happy you?
4. What's the opposite state of happiness? Is there a big gap between being happy and unhappy?
5. Can you be happy when somebody close to you is not?
6. Can happiness be long? How can you prolong it?
7. Why some people are happy all the time and others very rarely?

Materialism

Reading: Can't Buy Love: Materialism Kills Marriages

Focusing too heavily on the "for richer" part of the nuptial vows could spell disaster for a marriage, according to research published today by Brigham Young University and William Paterson University.

Fears

Questions for discussion, Part I:

  1. Are there any parts of the city where you live which you are afraid to visit after dark? Where? Why?
  2. Are there certain weather conditions that scare people? What are they? Why do people become scared?
  3. Are you afraid of flying?
  4. Are you afraid of heights?
  5. Are you afraid to ride a motorcycle?
  6. Are you afraid of the dark? Were you afraid of the dark as a child?
  7. Are you afraid of ghosts?

Laughter

Questions for discussion:

  1. What definition would you give for laughter?
  2. Do you laugh a lot?
  3. How important is laughter?
  4. Is laughter infectious / catching?
  5. Do you often burst into laughter?
  6. When is laughter wrong or ill-advised?
  7. What do you think when you hear the sound of laughter?
  8. How does laughter happen?
  9. People can ‘roar’ or ‘howl’ with laughter, and ‘burst into’ or ‘break into’ laughter. What are the differences between these?

Relationship at Work

Questions for discussion:

  1. Why do love affairs at work happen so often?
  2. Why do love affairs rarely end up as a marriage?
  3. Have you ever been in love or dated with your colleague? Or do you know such a story? Did it end up well?
  4. Why do many companies prohibit love affairs between the workers of the company and between the workers and clients/ partners? Is it only because the bosses want their employees be lonely and spend all their time at work?

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